Some people say they fell out of love and want to break up but other people say love is permanent and anybody who says they don’t love you anymore never loved you to begin with. Find out what it means to fall out of love and whether or not true love is eternal.
You had a fight with your significant other, and you both said some horrible things to each other. Now you are in separate rooms, ignoring each other, and you both feel justified for the hurtful things you said. All this has you wondering if your relationship is worth the trouble and whether you have anything to stay together for. Even worse than seeing signs that he doesn’t love you because of fighting is if he flat out says “ I don’t love you anymore.” Join SpiritualBlossom as we explore the painful reality of discovering that you might not really be in love with each other. Find out how to tell if it’s love or not and how to break the news if you are not in love. Most importantly, find out if love really lasts forever.
They Don’t Love Me Anymore!
After years of being in a relationship, how would you react if your significant other or even your best friend told you they didn’t love you anymore? Would you beg them to reconsider, or go out of your way to try and make them fall in love with you? Would you tell them off and leave, or become quiet and pretend they never said it, hoping things go back to the way they used to be? What if there was a time when your relationship seemed perfect, and now you have grown apart? Sometimes relationships start off wonderfully, then problems come between you and make you wonder why you were ever together to begin with.
Life happens, people change over the years, and things happen that change our perception of one another. Over time, you may find yourself in a relationship with someone who is nothing like they used to be, and the person they’ve become might be someone you cannot stand to be around. A lot of people will insist on staying together for the sake of how perfect things used to be and other people stick around because they put a lot of time and work into a problem relationship from the beginning and they won’t admit they are not in love. Not every relationship is meant to last forever, and sometimes, we were never in love to begin with. How do you know whether it’s love? You can ask Tarot Cards about love and the Minor Arcana has a lot to say about love: How to Manifest Love
When It’s Love
Not everybody falls madly in love, but when you do, you will know it. There are countless signs you are truly in love. When you are there for each other no matter how difficult things are, it’s love. When you overlook small imperfections, it’s love. When you are a team building a life together, it’s love. When you look forward to seeing each other, you are in love.
You Are There For Each Other
Who is there for you in the middle of the night when your pet dies or you need someone to go to the hospital with you when you break your foot? Who can’t be bothered to help you? The people who are there for you love you, the ones who could help, but refuse to don’t. Ask yourself which people you will drop everything to do things for. These are the people who you love. Love means you spend your life together and help each other. Taurus is very reliable for their loved ones and you can read about them here: Taurus Zodiac Traits and Love Compatibility
You Forgive Imperfections
Nobody is perfect. In relationships some things become annoying. Your significant other’s favorite color might be too bright and overwhelming, but you let them wallpaper the bedroom in that color because it makes them happy. Your white cat’s shedding might bother them because the fur gets all over their navy-blue couch but they quietly clean the fur off because they know you love your cat. You overlook or tolerate some things for the sake of making the people you love happy.
You Build Life Together
When you are in love, you are a team. You make plans together, and you experience the present time together. You will have some separate hobbies, and time apart from one another, but being in love means you want to share your life together. You see yourselves together long term and you consult them in major life decisions because you know the decisions you make include them too. You can’t imagine being without them, and you do everything you can to make sure you stay together. Cancers love to build a life with the people they love and you can read about that Sign here: Cancer Zodiac Traits and Love Compatibility
You Look Forward to Seeing Them
We all need time to ourselves, and we all need time with friends and family without being attached at the hip to a significant other. When you love someone, you look forward to seeing them again after you have been apart. When you are so glad to be apart from someone, and you dread seeing them again, don’t kid yourself. You want to be away from them. Some people force themselves to stay together, and look forward to every last second they have apart. That’s not love. Love means wanting to be together.
When It’s Not Love
When you are not in love, there can be different reasons. Sometimes, we mistake infatuation for love, and when that wears off, we wonder why we were ever together. You can tell you are not in love when you only want someone around when they are doing exactly what you want. You can also tell you are not in love if you just keep them around for things they do for you. If you are out actively looking for someone else to replace them with, you can be sure you don’t love them.
Infatuation
Infatuation is short lived and intense interest in someone, and a lot of people mistake this for love. Infatuation can last up to three years, and once it’s over, a lot of people realize they really don’t love the person they were infatuated with. Sometimes, infatuation develops into love, but when it doesn’t, there is often a breakup. Unfortunately, many people have already committed to a relationship by then. Review 42 states that a lot of relationships last 2 years and 9 months before their breakups. Half of first American marriages end in divorce, and second and third marriages are more likely to fail. Give time before marrying to make sure it’s love and not infatuation. Read more from Review 42 here: Average Relationship Length [19+ Eye-Opening Stats] (review42.com)
You Only Want Them Around When You’re Happy
When you only want to be around someone when they are doing things you like, but you don’t even want to be in the same room otherwise, you don’t love them. You might not even like them. While it’s true that we do things for people we share our life with, if you just want someone around when you are having fun, or agreeing with what they do, chances are, there is a lot about them you find undesirable. Don’t tie yourself down to people who you literally can’t stand. There are plenty of other people who you can spend your life with.
You Only Need Them
If you just keep somebody in your life because of what they can do for you, you don’t love them. We do things for the people we love, and they do things for us sure, but what else holds you together? Do you share the same values and want to build the same life together? Do you enjoy their company? Do you want what is best for them? If you just have someone in your life because you need them, it’s not love. Why hold onto someone you don’t love when you could find your soulmate? What’s a Soulmate/How Do You Find Them?
You Look for Other People
Are you keeping a lover around just so you have one and you are always on the lookout for someone you think you will like better. You don’t love them. You’re keeping them with you so you don’t have to be single. Being single isn’t always fun, but being tied down to a loveless relationship can keep you from meeting new people who you could fall in love with. Be careful about starting a new relationship as an affair. If someone would cheat with you, they might cheat on you as well.
How To Tell Someone You Don’t Love Them
You might think it would be mean to leave a relationship with somebody who loves you if you don’t love them. How could you dump such a person? The worst thing you can do to somebody is to stay in a relationship with them if you don’t really love them. You will relegate them to a loveless relationship and hold them back from being with somebody who they can truly share love with. You are not doing them any favors by keeping them with you. Your communication with them should be fair, truthful, and to the point. You don’t want to hurt them anymore than you need to , because the truth is, finding out somebody you love doesn’t love you in return hurts badly enough.
Don’t list things you say turned you away from them and don’t say you don’t love them ANYMORE. Just tell them you don’t love them. If they ask why, is there really a reason? We don’t choose who we love. We know what we like, and what personality and physical traits attract us to people but love just is. You can’t always explain why you love someone, and you can’t always explain why you don’t. A long conversation about why won’t change anything. Try to focus on moving forward with your lives as friends instead of lovers or completely split. Above all, don’t criticize, attack, or ridicule them about this. Like you can’t choose the fact you don’t love them, they did not choose to love you.
What if They Don’t Love You
If somebody says they don’t love you, don’t be angry. Don’t beg, and don’t chase them. They don’t love you and there is nothing you can do about that. You will have to accept their feelings, let them go, and pick up the pieces of your heart and move forward in life without them.
Accept It
There are some people who you don’t love, and there are people who don’t love you. If someone doesn’t love you, there isn’t anything you can do to change that. You will have to accept it. You will have to take out time to grieve the loss of what you felt was an important love relationship, of course, but in the end, it comes down to accepting their feelings.
Let Them Go
If someone says they don’t love you, they will usually break up with you. Let them. Don’t try to get them to stay or work things out. Love cannot be forced, and the only thing you can do is focus on the fact you love them. If you love them, you will want them to be happy. If they are not happy with you, they will need to leave to be happy. Let the people you love move forward in life to the people and places that make them happy. That’s what your love can provide when they don’t love you. Read about letting go here: The Ultimate Guide on How to Let Someone Go
Start Again
This is difficult. Starting your life again without the relationship with the person you love might feel impossible. How can you have a life without them? The same way you did when they were with you. One day at a time. If a whole day seems overwhelming, take it one moment at a time. Make plans to do things you are passionate about, and spend time with other people who you love. It will be very difficult at first to move forward without them, but each day gets easier. I promise.
Is Love Forever?
Love lasts forever. Some relationships don’t. If you think you don’t love someone anymore, chances are you never loved them. You may have been infatuated, or maybe they turned out to be different than you thought they were. Maybe you didn’t fall out of love. maybe for some reason, your relationship was not working. You might also still love somebody and be unable to bear being in a relationship because of their behavior. That does not mean you stopped loving them. When you truly love someone, you will love them forever.
Love is the most wonderful feeling in the world, but sometimes, you’re just not in love. It’s important to know the difference between love and wanting people, being infatuated with them, or only keeping them around until you find someone else. Some relationships are just temporary, but love never dies. If you don’t love someone, that’s okay. We can’t choose who we love, but we can choose not to allow loveless relationships to dominate our lives. May your love be reciprocated, your relationships happy, and may you be with those you love forever. So Be It.
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About the Author: Lady Saoirse has studied magic and lore for most of her life but started walking her own Magical Path after being spiritually reborn in the desert. Today she is a High Priestess for The Temple of the Goddess, she is a psychic advisor and spiritual counselor, she shares her gifts as a Psychic and Content Writer for SpiritualBlossom, Mysticsense, and she writes for The Green Egg and PaganPages.Org emag.
