What happens when you say yes to the beautiful things life has to offer instead of always depriving yourself? Learn how to say yes to the right things to have the best life yet!
Do you know people who deny themselves of everything because they think it’s bad for them to be overly indulgent? Maybe they like the number on the scales, but when you see them pass their favorite treat and looking at it sadly, you might want to rethink saying no to everything that makes you happy. Saying no is necessary sometimes, especially when you say no to other people’s manipulation and drama, but what about saying yes? Saying yes can be liberating, soul filling, and fun. Join SpiritualBlossom as we explore the magic that occurs when you say yes. Find out why you can still practice self-discipline while saying yes to the right things and all the great reasons to say yes in general! Why say yes? Read on to find out
What Does Yes Mean?
The word yes is an affirmation that creates energy. It means you agree to something, permit something, or say you will do something. It accepts opportunities, experiences, and new relationships. We sometimes think saying no to everything is best, but is it? Saying no to things that can be good for you shuts out the opportunity to experience them. What does it look like when you say yes?
Yes is what you say when you do want to marry the person who has proposed and it is what you say to yourself when you indulge in a day at the spa. It’s what you say to your dog when she wants to go on an extra-long walk instead of going back inside on a nice day and it’s what you say to the kids when they want to go to their favorite toy store. Saying yes creates joy. It allows us to go to the places we want, and do the things we want, and it can strengthen relationships. Read about saying yes to self-love here: Practicing Self Love
Is Yes Overly Permissive?
It can be, but it doesn’t have to be. If somebody asks you if you want another glass of wine, but you have had enough, go ahead and tell them no and say yes to moderation and have wine again another time. Yes doesn’t have to be all about overindulgence. A little indulgence isn’t a bad thing. It can make us happy, improve our sense of overall well being, and guess what? That improves our health. When you are happy, you are more likely to make healthier decisions about diet and exercise and you are more likely to get enough sleep. Granting yourself the permission to do things doesn’t just make you happy, but it makes you healthier!
Maybe your friends disapprove of the haircut you want, but you give yourself permission to get it anyways and you love it. Maybe your co-workers want you to hold off on your vacation so you can attend a party with them instead but you give yourself permission to go anyway. Maybe it seems like a waste of time to sit and read all night before bed when laundry needs done, but you read instead of doing the laundry anyways, and you feel well rested for work tomorrow. Saying yes grants permission to be happy, healthy, and fulfilled.
Isn’t Self Discipline Most Important?
It’s hard to say what is most important in life. Saying no to everything that would make you happy isn’t self-discipline. It’s deprivation, and it’s not a good thing. It will not make you strong or more dedicated. It will make you miserable and compromise your ability to perform. How can that be? Believeinmind.com says “Self-deprivation starts in childhood when you internalize beliefs that you don’t deserve good things or that rewards and self-care are selfish…The cycle continues as you deny yourself things that would make you happy…then you end up feeling resentful, burned out, and joyless.” Read more from them here: Self-Deprivation: Its Vicious Cycle and How to Break Free (believeinmind.com)
Self-discipline is about teaching yourself to do things that are good for you even if they are not exactly fun. Self-discipline is getting up on time for work. Self-discipline is saving money for your vacation instead of blowing it on things you don’t need. Self-discipline is refusing to talk to your abusive ex because you want abuse out of your life. Self- discipline is actually one of the most powerful ways we say yes. It means saying no to the wrong things so we can say yes to the right things.
What if I Look Ridiculous?
Sometimes, we fall flat on our faces trying new, and exciting things, and it seems like the whole world is laughing at us for it. That isn’t the worst thing that could happen. It is far better to accept an invitation and get stood up than to sit at home wondering what a nice time you could have had if you’d accepted. It is better to struggle on a topic in night school than wonder what you could have learned had you only been brave enough to sign up for the classes. It is better to trip and fall in yoga class than to never take the yoga classes you have wanted to.
You only fall at first, by the way because yoga gets easier the longer you do it! Your date might have been caught in traffic, but they will reschedule. You can get tutoring in your classes and get through the struggles. Never stifle curiosity when you want to do something for yourself. Say yes! Sagittarians are hardly ever afraid of what people think and you can read about that Sign here: Sagittarius Traits and Love Compatibility
Why Yes is Important
There will never be enough time or space to explain all the reasons why saying yes matters. A few big reasons why saying yes is important stand out, though. Saying yes accepts opportunities and saying yes allows for personal growth. Saying yes also means you take the time out to enjoy life.
You Get Opportunities
If you say no to each invitation to participate in the neighborhood barbeques, you will miss out on the opportunity to get to know your neighbors better. If you say yes, you will get to eat some good food, have a good time, and maybe make some connections with some great people. Every day, we are offered new opportunities. Taking opportunities can mean taking risks, but a lot of times, it’s worth it. Will you be open to the opportunities, or shut them out? Say yes to new opportunities that look good. You will be glad you did. Read about changes and new beginnings here: How to Manifest Your Life After Changes
You Get to Grow
Saying yes can make us grow. When we accept things, people, and opportunities, new parts of ourselves can unfold that we never knew existed. The dance classes can unlock a hidden talent for choreography. It’s also never too late to grow and discover parts of ourselves. Vera Wang designed her first dress at the age of 40 and Toni Morrison was working as an editor when she wrote her first novel, The Bluest Eye, at age 40. Not all of us will be as successful as these two famous ladies, but we all get opportunities to grow and discover new things about ourselves all the time. So, say yes!
You Experience Joy
A man named Alex knew his kids loved a certain hamburger restaurant. He would take them there often. The kids would scream “YAY” and jump for joy when their father would drive into the parking lot of the restaurant. The kids grew up to remember fondly how their father always made sure to do little things like take them for burgers to make them happy. Say yes to happy experiences every chance you get. You never know when you will be gone and the people you love remember the joy you shared together because you said yes to happy things. Isn’t life about moments of happiness? Say yes to things that make you happy! Read about making your dreams come true here: How to Make All Your Dreams Come True
When To Say Yes
We can’t say yes to everything, but we can say yes to the right things. Say yes when it will help. Say yes when it creates happiness. Say yes, even if you can’t tell why, but it just feels right.
When It Helps
Saying yes can help more than can be expressed. Kids fundraisers for their schools can buy much needed school supplies, uniforms, or money for trips. So, buy some flowers or candy to support the cause! If your neighbor needs help moving an old piece of furniture out to the curb for trash pickup, say yes and help if you can. We need each other every day. Next time, the person you said yes to might help you when you need them.
When it Creates Joy
What’s it going to hurt to let the kids stay up late to watch their favorite pop star’s concert stream live? It’s not a school night anyways and they will remember getting to watch it live for the rest of their lives. Better yet, they have been begging you to buy tickets to a concert. How about you say yes and go? They will remember mom or dad taking them to see their music idol for the rest of their lives. Say yes to happy experiences. Sometimes life can be difficult, but moments of joy make tough times bearable- so say yes to joy! Something else that creates joy is conscious living and Feng Shui can help with that: How to Do Feng Shui
When It Feels Right
Sometimes your instincts tell you to say yes to something. You are not sure why, but you know it is right. Always trust your instincts. Our instincts are the rawest part of our natural psychic selves, and they help guide us to make great decisions. Once you have said yes based on an instinct, you can watch the good results unfold. Time will show you why you naturally knew it was right to say yes and you will be glad you did.
How To Say Yes
Saying yes isn’t always as easy as saying the word. Sometimes, you have to prepare for it mentally and emotionally. If any negative thoughts or worries creep in, set those aside first, and that will make it easier to say yes. Go ahead and accept that it is okay to treat yourself, you deserve it. Next, be brave and take a chance!
Set Aside Negativity
Dark thoughts can interfere when we are trying to say yes to something. If you marry the man who you want to marry, what if you end up divorced like your parents? If you take that new job across town, what happens if it doesn’t work out? If you stand up to the bully in the neighborhood, what happens if they retaliate? Sometimes, thinking of possible consequences helps, but sometimes we make ourselves sick worrying about them and we should just say yes anyways. You can face worries and fears anytime and there are tips on how to do that here: Facing and Overcoming Fears
Be Okay with Treating Yourself
When you worry that allowing yourself to enjoy something is bad, stop thinking that way. Everybody deserves the happiness that allowing good experiences brings. Yes, even you. Maybe you were taught that going without was virtuous, or that self-deprivation was admirable. It’s not. Eat the cake. Go for a midnight swim at the resort pool. Take that vacation you have saving up for that your jealous cousin can’t afford. Say yes to treating yourself. You won’t be sorry.
Take a Chance
Sometimes, we have to take a leap of faith and say yes to something we are not 100% certain will work out. One woman was newly divorced, and her best friend was too. They both had kids who were also best friends. The ladies decided to pack everything they owned on a moving truck and move to Arizona like sisters together. Twenty years later, they said they never looked back, and they never regretted taking that “crazy chance” in a new town with new jobs.
Taking chances can be very scary. For the ladies, what if their new jobs had fallen through? What if the kids became homesick? What if they had a best friend’s breakup and ended up needing to move away from each other? They didn’t worry. They said yes to the dream of moving out West they both had, and they were glad they did. Each of us will get chances to say yes to new things all the time. Don’t let what could go wrong stop you. Plan, work hard, and take that chance. It might be the best thing you ever say yes to. If you are anxious about saying yes to a great opportunity, here are some crystals that might help your anxiety: The Best Stones for Anxiety
Sometimes, you just have to say yes. You have to treat yourself, join in for good times, take the new classes, sign up for the yoga group, or take a chance on dating somebody new. Life is full of wonderful experiences to have, but if you hold yourself back, it’s not going to keep you safe. You will feel deprived and regret it. You deserve all the best things in life, and allowing yourself to experience them beats holding yourself back. So, say yes!
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About the Author: Lady Saoirse has studied magic and lore for most of her life but started walking her own Magical Path after being spiritually reborn in the desert. Today she is a High Priestess for The Temple of the Goddess, she is a psychic advisor and spiritual counselor, she shares her gifts as a Psychic and Content Writer for Mysticsense and SpiritualBlossom, and she writes for The Green Egg Magazine and PaganPages.Org emag.
